Listen up ya'll, I got a story to tell *in my Biggie voice*
This is pure comedy but I be darned if truth ain't written all in this! I can remember just like it was yesterday, when Facebook first appeared on the scene back in 04/05 and then in just a moment of time it became this overnight multi-billion dollar platform that it is today. I also remember some of my statuses back then being raw and ratchet such as "I'm on some fuck-a-nigga shit right now" or "How you gonna continue to wear the same dress to the club every week, bitch we can see you" [Lol] I'm telling you I was a trip [still am] but back then, I was a few lower levels of consciousness in the wind and just had a IDAF attitude. Straight from the hood yet intellectual and I wasn't going to let anyone get over on me because I possessed just as much street smarts as I had book smarts.
So transitioning from ratchet status updates. [Lol] Where do I start? Let's start with the actual term "ratchet"; for those who are technical with it and for the "smart asses", we know that a ratchet is a tool but somehow this term has took a ghetto spin and has gained another meaning. Present day 2012 circa ratchet currently holds a ghetto - hood - hot mess theme to it. All I can do is shake my head and laugh! Only in America right?! Oh how "We" love to give birth to new terms and make it go viral in seconds right?!
But here's the thing, I know some of you can relate to sitting behind your computer/laptop/smartphone/ipad/tablet and be wanting to go in on a few people and I mean go IN because of some random rant, or some arrogant ignorance, or repeated Ghandi affirmations when you know personally they are full of shit. Well let me be the first to raise my hand and say I HAVE and still even now some days have the urge to tell people about themselves however for me, the transition has clearly been made and as I constantly remind myself - "that's just not "you" anymore Sheeka" I kindly refrain from being ratchet and going off on my own status updates about what someone else is facebook fronting about. Don't get it twisted now, the potential to resurrect this "Sheeka" is there and it was definitely me several years back but, if you've been tracking my evolutionary process online it's clear and evident that changes within has been made and I have transformed and is still transforming for that matter. [wink-wink] Unfortunately though, everyone doesn't make that distinction of recognizing "hey, my time is now - i can't keep hitting that snooze button over and over and over again. I have to make these changes NOW - I'm ready" and then boom change happens [I call it "The Man in The Mirror" moment] So what I am saying to you is that it's fine, it's ok to have changed [eeeeek, there goes that word we love to hate] But don't you never allow anyone to make you feel bad because you have grown and they are still stuck [mentally] in the same frequency - folks have a way of making pple feel horrible because they do. Folks just love to bring up your past like you're running from it or something. It's such a thing. One thing I admire about Miss NeNe Leakes from RHOA is sister girl will tell you in a millisecond that "Yes, I use to be a stripper and I was making my money honey and what?" Same goes for Kandi as well. I had the pleasure of watching Beyond the Studio with Nikki Woods [who has kicked it with me on an episode of Soulful Essentials before] and as they were talking about how Kandi deals with the drama on the show, [view video here] Kandi straight out said something on the lines of, "it ain't like I don't be wanting to go off on some people and get down and dirty but I think about the end results; if I hit somebody then they can potentially sue me - I just be walking away". I feel exactly where Kandi is coming from because she's like - I got too much to lose to be fooling and engaging with ignorant ppl. And that's just that.
Hey look, at the end of the day - don't beat yourself over social network. When you start getting too emotionally attached to other people's status updates then that is a key indicator that you need to take a vacay from social media. Most people don't realize how closely connected we are through the internet and what someone is doing way in Chicago can indeed directly affect someone who lives in South Carolina. So accept your friend requests wisely! ;)
Coach YaSheeka is a motivator, an aspiring professional writer, a certified Life Coach, and Radio Personality. Even though she rarely identifies solely with the many labels and titles that have been used to identify or define someone,she enjoys the human connection and studying human behavior, psychology and will be moving towards her Masters Degree in Psychotherapy in the near future. To schedule a free 1 on 1 consultation book Coach YaSheeka here.
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